When I was in university my friend once told me that her real dream is not a greatly accomplished career but a happy family, husband, kids… I came back home completely puzzled questioning my dad: don’t all people want to achieve something great in their life (bringing up a family didn’t look like a great achievement to me at that point;) ) …and why one goes to a university otherwise?;) the second time I was struck with the thought that not actually all women put career as the first goal in their life was at some “sr. finance women” gathering at intel…. Most of the women did not want higher grade jobs than what they already had… This is an interesting article on this popular debate about women and the workplace… I guess women are just human;)) and not all of them find satisfaction in the same things My favourite quotes are:
Why don’t women run the world?
Maybe it’s because they don’t want to.
When these women blame biology, they do so apologetically, and I find the tone as interesting as the words. Any parent can tell you that children are hard-wired from birth: this one is shy, this one is outgoing; this one is laid-back; this one is intense. They were born that way. And any student of the animal kingdom will tell you that males and females of a species act differently. Male baboons leave their mothers; female baboons stay close for life. The female kangaroo is oblivious to her young; the male seahorse carries fertilized eggs to term. Susan Allport, a naturalist, writes in her book ”A Natural History of Parenting,” ”Males provide direct childcare in less than 5 percent of mammalian species, but in over 90 percent of bird species both male and female tend to their young.”
”My fantasy is a world where there are two kinds of people — ones who like to stay home and care for children and ones who like to go out and have a career,” she says. ”In this fantasy, one of these kinds can only marry the other.” But the way it seems to work now is that ambitious women seem to be attracted to ambitious men. Then when they have children together, ”someone has to become less ambitious.” And right now, it tends to be the woman who makes that choice.
That is the gift biology gives women, she says. It provides pauses, in the form of pregnancy and childbirth, that men do not have. And as the workplace becomes more stressful and all-consuming, the exit door is more attractive. ”Women get to look around every few years and say, ‘Is this still what I want to be doing?”’ she says. ”Maybe they have higher standards for job satisfaction because there is always the option of being their child’s primary caregiver. When a man gets that dissatisfied with his job, he has to stick it out.”
Looked at that way, this is not the failure of a revolution, but the start of a new one. It is about a door opened but a crack by women that could usher in a new environment for us all.
Why don’t women run the world?
”In a way,” Amsbary says, ”we really do.”
it looks like in our young family this day i am playing the role of the Turkey and Nigel keeps poking thermometer at me checking how fast the fever rises )))) I have to get better fast enough to survive a thanksgiving food fest :)
…30 days to go… it’s getting a bit too intense taking into account that i DO hate any type of planning…))))) http://www.mywedding.com/nigelyulia/index.html